divinedebris

Rape culture is when I was six, and
my brother punched my two front teeth out.
Instead of reprimanding him, my mother
said “Stefanie, what did you do to provoke him?”
When my only defense was my
mother whispering in my ear, “Honey, ignore him.
Don’t rile him up. He just wants a reaction.”
As if it was my sole purpose, the reason
six-year-old me existed,
was to not rile up my brother.
It’s starts when we’re six, and ends
when we grow up assuming the natural state of a man
is a predator, and I must walk on eggshells, as to
not “rile him up.” Right, mom?

Rape culture is when through casual dinner conversation,
my father says that women who get raped are asking for it.
He says, “I see them on the streets of New York City,
with their short skirts and heavy makeup. Asking for it.”
When I used to be my father’s hero but
will he think I was asking for it? (will he think)
Will he think I deserved it?
Will he hold me accountable or will he hold me,
even though the touch of a man - especially my father’s -
burns as if I were holding the sun in the palm of my hand.

Rape culture is you were so ashamed, you thought it would
be easier for your parents to find you dead,
than to say, “Hey mom and dad,”
It wasn’t my fault. I didn’t ask for it.
I never asked for this attention, I never asked
to be a target, to be weak because I was born with
two X chromosomes, to walk in fear, to always look behind me,
in front of me, next to me, I never asked to be the prey.
I never wanted to spend my life being something
someone feasts upon, a meal for the eternally starved.
I do not want to hear about the way I taste anymore.
I will not let you eat me alive.

Rape culture is I shouldn’t defend my friend when
an overaggressive frat boy has his hand on her ass,
because standing up for her body “makes me a target.”
Women are afraid to speak up, because
they fear their own lives - but I’d rather take the hit
than live in a culture of silence.
I am told that I will always be the victim, pre-determined
by the DNA in my weaker, softer body.
I have birthing hips, not a fighter’s stance.
I am genetically pre-dispositioned to lose every time.

Rape culture is he was probably abused as a child.
When he even has some form of a justification
and all I have are the things that provoked him,
and the scars from his touch are woven of the darkest
and toughest strings, underneath the layer of my skin.
Rape culture leaves me finding pieces of him left inside of me.
A bone of his elbow. The cap of his knee.
There is something so daunting in the way that I know it will take
me years to methodically extract him from my body.
And that twinge I will get sometimes in my arm fifteen years later?
Proof of the past.
Like a tattoo I didn’t ask for.
Somehow I am permanently inked.

Rape culture is you can’t wear that outfit anymore
without feeling dirty, without feeling like
you somehow earned it.
You will feel like you are walking on knives,
every time you wear the shoes
you smashed his nose in with.
Imaginary blood on the bottom of your heels,
thinking, maybe this will heal me.
Those shoes are your freedom,
But the remains of a life long fight.
You will always carry your heart,
your passion, your absolute will to live,
but also the shame and the guilt and the pain.
I saved myself but I still feel like I’m walking on knives.

Rape culture is “Stefanie, you weren’t really raped, you were
one of the lucky ones.”
Because my body wasn’t penetrated by a penis,
but fingers instead, that I should feel lucky.
I should get on my hands and knees and say, thank you.
Thank you for being so kind.
Rape culture is “things could have been worse.”
“It’s been a month, Stefanie. Get out of bed.”
“You’ll have to get over this eventually.”
“Don’t let it ruin your life.”
Rape culture is he told you that after he touched you,
no one would ever want you again.
And you believed him.

Rape culture is telling your daughters not to get raped,
instead of teaching your sons how to treat all women.
That sex is not a right. You are not entitled to this.
The worst possible thing you can call a woman is a
slut, a whore, a bitch.
The worst possible thing you can call a man is a
bitch, a pussy, a girl.
The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl.
The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl.
Being a woman is the ultimate rejection,
the ultimate dismissal of strength and power, the
absolute insult.
When I have a daughter,
I will tell her that she is not
an insult.

When I have a daughter, she will know how to fight.
I will look at her like the sun when she comes home
with anger in her fists.
Because we are human beings and we do not
always have to take what we are given.
They all tell her not to fight fire with fire,
but that is only because they are afraid of her flames.
I will teach her the value of the word “no” so that
when she hears it, she will not question it.
My daughter,
Don’t you dare apologize for the fierce love
you have for yourself
and the lengths you go to preserve it.

My daughter,
I am alive because of the fierce love I have
for myself, and because my father taught me
to protect that.
He taught me that sometimes, I have to do
my own bit of saving, pick myself off the
ground and wipe the dirt off my face,
because at the end of the day,
there is only me.
I am alive because my mother taught me
to love myself.
She taught me that I am an enigma - a
mystery, a paradox, an unfinished masterpiece and
I must love myself enough to see how I turn out.
I am alive because even beaten, voiceless, and back
against the wall, I knew there was an ounce of me
worth fighting for.
And for that, I thank my parents.

Instead of teaching my daughter to cover herself up,
I will show her how to be exposed.
Because no is not “convince me”.
No is not “I want it”.
You call me,
“Little lady, pretty girl, beautiful woman.”
But I am not any of these things for you.
I am exploding light,
my daughter will be exploding light,
and you,
better cover your eyes.

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Rape Culture (Cover Your Eyes)

This is so beautiful. Authentic. Painful. Real.

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Sorry, I was vague. I understand that it's for gender equality. I meant to ask what specific areas or issues. Basically I'm asking who do you believe is not equal? Is there a specific area women aren't treated equally in or is it a specific demographic of women? Hope that makes sense. from Anonymous

lillabet:

If you’re asking about specific areas/issues:

  • End the stigma against women who have a lot of sex because they like sex and against men who are virgins
  • TRANS RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!
  • Gay/Lesbian rights
  • End bi/pan/asexual/demisexual-erasure
  • Abolish gender roles because they’re stupid and harmful
  • End stigma against poly folks
  • Destroy the idea that it’s okay to cut off a part of a male baby’s penis for aesthetic or social pressure purposes
  • Abolish selective service and conscription
  • End the sigma against women who don’t want to remove body hair and against men who want to
  • Get rid of the absolutely stupid idea that men are emotionless dominating assholes and women are submissive weaklings
  • Destroy the idea that the first time a woman has sex will be painful and horrible and bloody and she’ll lose a part of herself and that a man isn’t a man until he has sex
  • Help people understand that sex is multi-sectored and varied and doesn’t just revolve around penetration 
  • HELP WOMEN UNDERSTAND THAT THEIR OWN PLEASURE IS IMPORTANT IN A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP
  • Raise awareness of how awful rape is for anyone who experiences it - it’s not a joke, it’s not acceptable to joke about it, and it can happen to anyone, and it doesn’t matter what anyone was wearing or how drunk they were 
  • FEMALE ON MALE RAPE IS CONSIDERED A JOKE AND THAT IS HORRIFIC - IT’S NOT A JOKE IF A MAN GETS RAPED, OR IF ANYONE GETS RAPED JFC
  • CONSENT IS FUCKING MANDATORY
  • End the stigma against breastfeeding - breasts aren’t just for porn, y’all
  • Destroy the idea that it’s a woman’s job to cook/clean/keep house - LEARN HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES

Enough detail?


allanime01:

caprediem:

tassiekitty:

samwinchesterswifipassword:

seriouslyamerica:

Seriously, Rugrats was not fucking around.

People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.
Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist 
She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage
Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….

Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.

How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.

Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people.Man Rugrats was the shit.

Ah, one of my favorite shows from my childhood. I watched Rugrats in Paris last week, it is a hollow interpretation of its source material. allanime01:

caprediem:

tassiekitty:

samwinchesterswifipassword:

seriouslyamerica:

Seriously, Rugrats was not fucking around.

People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.
Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist 
She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage
Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….

Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.

How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.

Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people.Man Rugrats was the shit.

Ah, one of my favorite shows from my childhood. I watched Rugrats in Paris last week, it is a hollow interpretation of its source material. allanime01:

caprediem:

tassiekitty:

samwinchesterswifipassword:

seriouslyamerica:

Seriously, Rugrats was not fucking around.

People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.
Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist 
She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage
Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….

Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.

How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.

Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people.Man Rugrats was the shit.

Ah, one of my favorite shows from my childhood. I watched Rugrats in Paris last week, it is a hollow interpretation of its source material. allanime01:

caprediem:

tassiekitty:

samwinchesterswifipassword:

seriouslyamerica:

Seriously, Rugrats was not fucking around.

People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.
Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist 
She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage
Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….

Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.

How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.

Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people.Man Rugrats was the shit.

Ah, one of my favorite shows from my childhood. I watched Rugrats in Paris last week, it is a hollow interpretation of its source material. allanime01:

caprediem:

tassiekitty:

samwinchesterswifipassword:

seriouslyamerica:

Seriously, Rugrats was not fucking around.

People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.
Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist 
She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage
Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….

Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.

How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.

Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people.Man Rugrats was the shit.

Ah, one of my favorite shows from my childhood. I watched Rugrats in Paris last week, it is a hollow interpretation of its source material. allanime01:

caprediem:

tassiekitty:

samwinchesterswifipassword:

seriouslyamerica:

Seriously, Rugrats was not fucking around.

People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.
Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist 
She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage
Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….

Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.

How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.

Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people.Man Rugrats was the shit.

Ah, one of my favorite shows from my childhood. I watched Rugrats in Paris last week, it is a hollow interpretation of its source material. 

allanime01:

caprediem:

tassiekitty:

samwinchesterswifipassword:

seriouslyamerica:

Seriously, Rugrats was not fucking around.

People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.

  • Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
  • Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
  • Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist 
  • She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
  • Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage

Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….

Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.

How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.

Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people.
Man Rugrats was the shit.

Ah, one of my favorite shows from my childhood. I watched Rugrats in Paris last week, it is a hollow interpretation of its source material. 


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